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Three Simple Keys of Confidence

Show me a successful athlete, or person and I’ll show you someone who is confident. It is without a doubt, the most important mental skill. You gotta believe in yourself! Here are three simple keys of confidence.

  • Confidence is a feeling:

When we are confident, we feel at ease, relaxed, and focused. It is something that we just know. However, confidence is NOT thoughts! We usually only recognize when we are not confident. When we are not confident, we just have more thoughts, doubt, and are not as comfortable. It does not mean the thoughts are even negative, it’s just that we are thinking more… We can act our way into right thinking easier than trying to think our way into right acting.

  • Confidence is knowing that you’re ready:

The keys of confidence is knowing, not hoping that you are ready.

A question to assess our own level of confidence is: how would you play if you couldn’t fail?

This mind-set is important, because I have yet to meet a successful athlete that plays awesome when they play timid or scared. Confidence = aggressive.

  • Confidence is patience:

Confident athletes never seem to panic or press when results aren’t going their way.

Look, we are ALL going to have bouts of struggle and adversity and we need to remain patient. We must trust our preparation, our coaches, our game plan, our emotional management, our routine, and process of execution. If we have confidence in the aspects we can control, then we will eventually have good outcomes. These are the keys of confidence!

 “They know, that I know, that they know that I know, I will win”

Watch this clip on Larry Bird & confidence!

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Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness 

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Three Simple Reasons You’re Not Successful Enough

The simple reason you’re not successful enough is due to the lack of consistency. You may perform well at times, and the good performances may be GREAT!

But, you are not flourishing because there is no consistency in your performance! The BAD Days are BAD. 

Coaches and bosses love the consistent performer because they KNOW who they are going to get. NO ONE wants someone who is Adam Sandler one day, but Tom Cruise the next.

Playing consistent is tough because- it matters how bad are the bad days.

Most people will tell you that they thirst for the consistent performer over the streaky. So, if you are not successful, it’s usually because you’re not consistent.

Here’s three simple reasons why you’re not successful:

1)             You are not hustling: 

Nothing can replace hustle. Look at the very best at the highest level and I guarantee that they put forth the most preparation.

It is the first step toward building success and consistency because we must know that we have put forth in the effort necessary.

Ghandi once stated “the harder we work, the tougher it is to surrender.” A rule to follow is to look at who works the hardest on your team and outwork them.

2)             You are not preparing the right way:

It pains me when I see the hardest workers not seeing results.

Often enough though, it is because they are not addressing the correct things.

Remember, we play like we train! In order to play consistent, we simply must compete and create pressure during our preparation.  These are the skills that transfer.

3)             You are putting too much pressure on yourself:

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Trying harder works in preparation, but rarely works in competition.

When we feel like we are not successful, we are often “getting in our own way.”

Focusing on results as opposed to the execution can cause us to play careful, tight, and trying NOT to mess up.

Pressure stems from a variety of places (expectations mostly) and it slowly creeps into our mentality and performance. Thus, we must completely devote ourselves to the task at hand and staying aggressive.

Peyton Manning summed it up perfectly, “Pressure is something you feel when you don’t know what the hell you’re doing.” 

Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness- 

How the iPhone Can Ruin Your Golf Game

How the iPhone Can Ruin Your Golf Game

Yes, talking on the phone and texting and listening to music ruins your golf game. It’s a distraction…

But, the iPhone can ruin your golf game through this one annoying feature called auto-correct.

Haven’t we all sent text messages that auto-corrects one word and the entire message becomes whacked? Okay, even sometimes amusingly. We then have to quickly follow-up with another text. We knew what we wanted to say, but auto-correct had other ideas….

Our golf game has an auto-correct feature.

We line up for a 6-foot putt. After reading the line and knowing that it is a right edge putt, we stand over the ball and are ready to stroke the putt.

Except at the very last second we turn into an iPhone.


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Even though we were ready to commit to the right edge of the putt, and standing over it, we autocorrect, and pick a different line.

Now autocorrect is sometimes effective on our phone, but it is rarely, if ever, effective when we play. Almost always, the putt isn’t going in if we don’t commit 100%. But a worse thing actually results from auto-correct.

We become upset because we missed the putt, but more upset because we didn’t trust our line or ourselves.

Remove the iPhone feature of auto-correct in your play.


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Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology coach. DRB & Associates based in Indianapolis works with professional athletes & corporate athletes, coaches, and teams building their Mental Toughness.  Check out any of the recent books on mental Toughness here… Follow on twitter @drrobbell  or contact