ways to practice humility

19 Ways to Practice Humility 


My mom at the time was working her way through nursing school and was exhausted because she had worked several consecutive shifts.

This wasn’t a family vacation, those were over after my parents split.

This was just a mom providing her youngest son a weekend with a friend at the beach.  I think that was an example of humility, I’m not sure, I do know what she did was the opposite of pride.

It was about finding a way. Isn’t it amazing why some memories stick.

Humility is interesting because it is not revered, nor cherished. It is mistaken for weakness, because who wants to admit that they are not the center of their own world?

However, Humility is a big brother to patience.

To practice humility and patience are both mental skills that require being intentional because they don’t come naturally to many of us.


Here’s 19 ways to practice humility as a pathway to Mental Toughness.

  1. It’s not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.
  2. Being of service to others…
  3. When we are wrong, we promptly admit it.
  4. Not caring about who really gets the credit…
  5. Doing the next right thing…
  6. Means living without extremes…. Moderation
  7. Humility is intended for a good person who wants to get better.
  8. It means asking GOD to direct my thinking.
  9. A form of spiritual fitness.
  10. Asking GOD for help and getting the reply “ask me again tomorrow.”
  11. Asking who else can I pray for?
  12. A perpetual quietness of the heart…
  13. Going to God…
  14. Asking, not telling…
  15. A conscious effort to NOT think about myself. (or else I will think of myself)
  16. NOT having to one-up people…
  17. Rooting for everyone!
  18. Honesty…
  19. Gratitude is the best way.

Paul Tesori, caddy to Webb Simpson, is an OUTSTANDING man. He told me one of his techniques to practice humility. When someone congratulates him or pats him on the back for a job well done he visualizes laying a rose at the feet of his savior. It’s one way he practices humility. His faith is rooted in giving God the glory in all things.

When we start counting our blessings rather than our shortcomings, it gets difficult to stop.


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Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out our books on Mental Toughness here. 

the eyeball contract

The Eyeball Contract

I spoke to a group of 30-40 elite divers every week this previous summer. This session, I brought along my son and daughter, ages 6 & 4.  They enjoyed sharing the stage with daddy, (I think my daughter loves selling the books), but this time they were particularly enjoying the attention a bit too much. The divers became distracted, so I had to ask my kids to settle it down. Didn’t work… I then knelt down to say it again and my son lovingly punched me in the face.

The divers awkwardly laughed, but I didn’t.  I needed to remain calm and take control at the same time. It was also one of those moments where you could feel all of the eyes on you.


I told him “EYEBALL CONTRACT”. Then, I proceeded to instruct him what was now expected. No more distraction, issue solved. I went right along with the presentation and even told the divers what I just did. A teachable moment…

John Groce, Head Coach of Illinois Basketball, has his players form an eyeball contract. The culture is such that in the huddle before practice and games, players have an eye-ball contract. The eye-ball contract means looking in someone’s eyes and knowing that you will give your best and they will give their best! Eyeball contracts take mental toughness. 

I use it with my family and vice-versa when it is something very important. We need each other at their best. No more games~this is what were are going to do.

I’ve seen the best of intentions on signed contracts, pledges, or agreements. They sound great but  rarely work. They are more about looking good rather than actually making a difference. 

People are going to make mistakes and mess up. It happens. Those that signed an agreement or pledge however to NOT mess-up are now bound by a law. When and if they do stumble, they are now under the thumb of extreme shame for the mistake. They often can’t come clean because they are in an abyss. What happens is that they become good liars. The agreement once propped up as a show of pride turns into an awful reminder.

The strategy of an eyeball contract gets results because it addresses the moment, not the past. Eye-ball contracts can be agreed upon frequently and when core values are at stake. It puts the emphasis on our character, in that exact moment. Forget the past.

The head fake is that the best eye-ball contracts are with ourselves in the mirror. Chris Herren, as a former professional NBA player, struggled with alcohol and drug addiction. It wasn’t until he became sober that he finally looked at himself in the mirror.  He simply didn’t like himself before.

I hate messing up, it saps my confidence and I’m just not of much use to anyone during those times. But, all I have is an eyeball contract, and that is renewable every day. I’m going to answer the bell more often than not. Mental Toughness is less about not messing up and more about not giving up. However, what kills most belief is just not allowing ourselves to mess up. We are all worthy of an eyeball contract with ourselves.


Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness- Don’t Should on Your Kid: Build Their Mental Toughness