The Mental Toughness Way to Just Keep Going

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Do you know how to finish a marathon?

JUST one step at a time. JUST a half-mile at a time. Then JUST one mile at a time.

Life is not a sprint, It’s a marathon as well. 

Life is tough. But, so are you.

The key to never giving up and to keep moving forward in life is to do just that. Keep moving forward! 

Just keep going becomes the end game. It’s the defining line between reaching your goals. It boils down to this simple, but not easy task. JUST KEEP GOINGThere are just many things that get in the way of that goal —expectations of ourselves and others, failure, and more repeated failures.

The game of life and success is actually one of attrition. IF you NEVER give up, you will be successful. If you stay in the game long enough, you will make it; sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. Remember, even slow walkers arrive.

Pain, sadness, regret, poor self-concept, lack of focus and failure can all be overcome if we JUST KEEP MOVING.

So, here’s three strategies to simply keep going.


 1. Write Out The Training Plan.

 

There was once a lunch reception for a golf event, with a buffet line. Normally in buffet lines, there are two lines, one of each side of the table moving in the same direction. Well, this line was interesting because of the flow of the guests getting their food.

Yes, there were two lines, but the organizer of the set-up, put one set of plates at one end and another set of plates at the far end. Picture it for a second because people were meeting each other in the middle. The layout may have made sense looking at it, but it just did not work.

Our training and preparation is the same way. Writing down your training plan means putting your plan into action. Write out the training plan for the next two weeks and everything you need.

What doesn’t get scheduled doesn’t get done. We need to see our plan, how we will prepare, and what adjustments to make.

DO NOT SKIP THIS STEP. There are too many variables that are inherent with life, but having a written plan is not one of them. Life does get in the way, but if you have a plan, then you can adjust the plan.

Writing out the plan for the week allows you to see what the time and work look like, and anticipate any issues that you may have during that week.

I didn’t even own a bike for my ½ Ironman training or race and no clue on how to best prepare, so I had to write it all out.  For example, I had to do two a day workouts because there was such little time to prepare. I had to fit in two workouts a day around my schedule with teams and athletes. This required detailed planning on overcoming the potential obstacles.


2. Develop Your Daily Routine.

 

The first hour of the day sets the rudder for the rest.

A good routine saves time which leads to focus, which leads to being in the moment. Besides, you already have a routine. First, we create habits then our habits create us. Is your routine effective and productive or do you mistake action for achievement?

William Penn once said, “Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.”  

All successful people get up early. Maybe it’s 3:30, 4:30, 5:30, or 6:30. If time is your excuse, make it your reason and just start rising 30 minutes earlier. You can do that, for the next two weeks, get up 30 minutes earlier.

However you organize your routine in the morning, make it a routine. Do you meditate, write out the daily goals, pray, exercise?

Start your routine on your schedule; you are the one in charge to develop your routine.

One of the parts of our routine is making a commitment to help others. It can be as simple as writing out the five people who we will reach out to today. The more people we help to just keep going, the tougher it gets for us to quit on ourselves. 


3. Start With The Hardest.

 

One of my PGA Tour players that I worked with taught me tons about mental toughness.

Before Scott Stallings won his first PGA Tour victory, we were at an event and we made a little wager that he had to complete a putting drill. This wager took place on the putting green and there was one very difficult putt. I figured he would save the toughest putt for last.

He pointed at the Rasputin of all holes and said, “I’m starting with that one!”

He won the bet. 

Tracy Thorsell attended the Naval Academy. She graduated with a degree in electrical engineering and speaks five languages. She took Chinese in high school because it was the toughest language to master.

Too often, we start with and only want the easy tasks. The idea for starting with the easy tasks is to create momentum in our day. However, we are actually just spending energy.

Get uncomfortable and build our mental toughness by starting with the hardest task. We get confidence and momentum from accomplishing the most difficult first.           


Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness 

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Here’s an example: The Follow-Through A restaurant taking a reservation is nice, but KEEPING the reservation is more important. If you don’t follow through with an email or hard-written note, then you’ve missed an opportunity.

Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness 

 


The Secret to Mental Toughness

(Excerpt from NO ONE Gets There ALONE)

We are as only as sick as our secrets.

So, here is the secret to mental toughness (And why I HATE it).

If we want to KEEP our mental toughness, we HAVE to give it away.

We can not help other people WITHOUT also helping ourselves! If I tell my daughter that she can NEVER give up, that same exact voice echoes in my head if I want to quit or stop.

That’s the secret to mental toughness! You have to give it away to keep it. 

If we help others to just keep moving, then we will keep moving. If we encourage others to not give up, then we persevere as well. If we share with someone else the importance of confidence, then we can’t help but help ourselves with being more confident.

When we communicate with someone else not to let a situation bother him or her, then we help ourselves by not allowing our own junk to bother us. Even if we are going through a tough period in life, if we do not isolate, but connect with others, then a better us starts to make a better you.

If we help enough people reach their goals; then we will reach ours.

I HATE the secret because I KNOW THE ANSWER, but knowing and doing are two different things. And I can’t stand being reminded of the answer!

Mental Toughness is not mental toughness when things are going great! [Tweet “Mental Toughness is not mental toughness when things are going great! Mental Toughness is not mental toughness when things are going great!]

I HATE the secret to Mental Toughness because when I am NOT confident, I isolate. I don’t share with others how they can be confident. I feel like a hypocrite. I feel I am of NO use to anyone else and that my experience is questionable.

Why would I want to bring other people down with my junk anyway?  But, if I stay in that space, the more I need others! We can’t coach ourselves…

Mental Toughness is not a secondary goal or aspiration or a deal with ourselves, meaning if things are going well, then I will be tough. It has to be the sole focus. Before any endeavor, we need to be intentional about becoming other-person focused and giving away what we possess.

I’m in life for the miracles and there are around us everyday. The miracle for us is that we can be transformed. Allowing God to help us focus on others and to use our strengths. To give away what we want to possess in ourselves. That is the secret to mental toughness.


 

Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness