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Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone11 tested ways to get out of your comfort zone


I’ve run two marathons, completed an Ironman, numerous ultra-marathons and I put everything I had into them. My best marathon time was a respectable 3:21 and that was running six days & fifty miles a week with speed work.

I kept track of every run and reviewed it the other day; it was intense.

I’ve also done 50-mile ultramarathons and a  Tough Mudder. My point is this: 

We get nowhere until we get out of your comfort zone.

Mental Toughness is not just physical. Most relate mental toughness to physical tasks because we can measure it and it is indeed difficult. However, we all can improve our mental toughness.

We just need to get uncomfortable.

 My 4th book on mental toughness was published specifically for parents. I wrote every single morning for 1-2 hours. It is uncomfortable and some days are worse than others.

But, my belief is that they don’t give bestsellers away.

I’ve written every book the same way- even PUKE & RALLY: it’s not about the setback, it’s about the comeback. 

 


1. Want to vs. have to…

If we are not doing what we love to do, what’s the point? Not many people get better at things they don’t enjoy. Our mental toughness is aligned with our passion, perspective, and gratitude.  If we dwell on the things that we don’t have, we are operating from a viewpoint of scarcity instead of abundance and gratitude. 

Remember, we focus on negatives in the darkroom.

2. Start with the hardest…

One of the PGA Tour players that I worked with taught me tons about mental toughness. Before Scott Stallings won his 1st PGA Tour victory, we were at an event that changed the way I approach life. He had to complete a putting drill in order to leave the course. There was one putt that was unreal and I figured he would save the toughest putt for last. He pointed at the Rasputin of holes and said,“ I’m starting with that one!”

Tracy Thorsell graduated with a degree in electrical engineering from the Naval Academy and speaks five languages. She took Chinese in High-school because it was the toughest.

Too often we start with and only want the easy tasks. Get uncomfortable and build our mental toughness by starting with the hardest task. That’s how we get out of your comfort zone. 

We get confidence and get momentum from accomplishing the most difficult first.           

3. Sit in a different seat & go a different route…

When I was a University professor, I had no seating arrangements, but people sat in the same seat every time. We seek comfort and we are creatures of habit. That is why we congregate around the same area and drive the same route. Go a different way is a simple way to engage the mind and get out of our comfort zone.

4. Be Honest…

I was once asked if I had seen a certain movie. I actually lied that I had because I wanted to be in on the conversation.

Honesty with others is tough, but honesty with ourselves is way more difficult.

Changing for the better is a good thing, however, it requires honest self-assessment. Not many people can be honest because it makes them vulnerable.

5. Connect with others…

Mushrooms and negatives grow in the dark. It takes little mental toughness to isolate. But, our condition changes with the books we read and the people we meet and interact with. Get out of your comfort zone by meeting one new person a day.

6. Suit up & show up…

A boxing coach, Jason Minnick, told me that the boxers who are mentally tough are the ones that show up… after a beating.

The toughest part is indeed showing up. Too often we allow one mess up or mistake to define us. It doesn’t matter how bad we messed up, learn from it, and get back on the path.

7. Don’t complain…

John Wooden said, “Don’t complain, whine or make excuses, your friends won’t need them and your foes won’t believe you.” Life without complaint means responding to situations and people, not reacting. Besides, complaining is the first small sign of giving up! 

8. Face the fear & do it anyway…

I wrote NO FEAR: A simple guide to mental toughness because FEAR is the biggest thing keeping us from our goals.

Everything we want in life is on the other side of that fear. The story that we tell ourselves either lifts us up or tears us down. Everyone is afraid, but few every address it.

Get out of your comfort zone and just do it, whatever your “it” is.

9. Trust others…

My friend Keith Tyner took his family on an R.V. trip out west. For every person he encountered and had a conversation, he simply gave them a little book reading light. Do you know how many people struggled with taking that small gift?

I hate trusting others because it means I may get hurt. I hate asking for help because it means I’m stupid.

That’s the story I tell myself that brings me down. The better story is I need to trust others because we can help each other. The odd thing is that no one wants to ask for help, but everyone wants to give it.

10. Pray & pray again…

Get uncomfortable by surrendering the things we cannot control. If prayer doesn’t’ work the first time, then pray again.

11. Trust your gut…

Our gut is our in-born smoke detector. It’s our GPS.

However, it’s a tough choice whether we listen to it or not. I am convinced we are right more often than not when we trust our gut. However, we will still be wrong on occasion, we just can’t let our mistakes to dictate how we operate. When we trust our gut, it simply reflects that we are confident.

ways to get out of your comfort zone

 

1.  Get to Vs. Have To
2. Start With The Hardest
3. Sit in a Different Seat/ Go a Different Route
4. Be Honest
5. Connect With Others
6. Suit Up & Show Up
7. Don’t Complain 
8. Face The Fear And Do it Anyways
9. Trust Others
10. Pray & Pray again. 

11 tested ways to get out of your comfort zone. 


 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 


be the best assistant coach


5 Practical Tips to Be The Best Assistant Coach Possible


  1. Information- Convey knowledge, not just problems to your head coach. Or bring solutions to the problems. Being the best assistant means to support the head coach in all decisions and personnel. This is not easy, It requires a high-level of communication. 
  2. Resume- Your current role is the optimal application for your next position. Treat it as the premier job that you’ve ever had to be the best assistant coach. 
  3. Loyalty- Faithfulness is not a gray issue. You must adapt to the head position and support the decisions. Of course communication is key, but the buck stops with the boss. 
  4. Initiative- Make your boss’ job easier. Talk about all stressful situations in non-stressful environments.  
  5. Family- Do not neglect the most important relationships, which are inside of your home. They sacrifice for you, so communication is key. That is paramount to be the best assistant possible.

5 Practical Tips 

1. INFORMATION
2. RESUME
3. LOYALTY
4. INITIATIVE
5. FAMILY 

 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 

hacks for injured athletes

 6 Mental Toughness Hacks for Injured Athletes


Injuries are unfortunately a part of the world of being an athlete, even a corporate athlete.  

I feel bad however when I witness so many athletes having the brutal experiences through their injury and especially returning to injury.

Inside of the sport itself, and not an outside life event, Injuries are the toughest process for an athlete to handle. There are so many emotions, expectations, pressures, and stressors that accompany an injury that outside help is often needed to assist.



Here are 6  hacks for injured athletes.

Let us know if this infographic can help. If you want one more resource check out our other infographic – 5 Simple Action Steps For Hurt Athletes. 

 

mental toughness hacks for injured athletes


It’s a hinge moment, so athletes will experience getting depressed. Feeling the blues, getting down, sad, and angry is normal, so expect it and learn how to deal with it as a coach or parent as well. 

If you’re the one banged up, then remind yourself that this is temporary!

Here is another infographic that can help 5 actions steps for injuries.  

Here was one of our talks from the NFL combine about helping professional football players deal with these incidents! 

These mental toughness hacks for injured athletes also include being patient and saying “this too shall pass.” It’s simple, but certainly NOT easy! 

Click here if you want more information on Mental Toughness Coaching.

Remember,  It’s not about the setback; it’s about the comeback.


 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 

your team's motivation

Use This CAR to Drive Your Team’s Motivation


Most coaches, executives, and owners want their team to be more self-driven and internally motivated. Who doesn’t? 

However, the measures that leaders employ are usually all externally driven.

We too often refer to outside measures to help facilitate change, namely rewards for good results or punishments for poor effort or outcomes.


A team’s motivation will increase dramatically when you use these three (3) keys! 


But, if you are searching for a more internal drive from the team, here are three metrics to examine and implement. 

Have we been trying to build your team’s motivation the right way?

If you are searching for more internal drive from your team, here are three metrics to examine. 

A-   Autonomy- People need to feel empowered in their position, that they can make decisions on their own and have a voice in their development.

R-  Relatedness- People want to feel a part of the team, that what they do matters, and they are contributing to something larger than themselves.

C-   Competence- People want to know that they are good at what they do. We do activities and perform tasks in which we are competent.  Confidence breeds success.

If a team is lacking in mental toughness and motivation, perhaps one of these principles is off.  For example, a person may feel he/she can make decisions (High A) and is good at it (High C) but not part of a team or recognized for their effort (Low R).

Here are three ways to improve your team’s motivation.

A-  Autonomy- Have individual 1-1 meetings and regular check-ins with your team. Ask for and get their input about what is working and/or what needs changed.

R-  Relatedness- Have functions or competitions! Internal competitions  can build the strength of a team and hanging out with one another enhances the camaraderie.

C-  Competence- Studies have shown that individuals will meet the expectations set forth by their coaches. In turn, positive feedback for effort increases the internal motivation, while negative feedback will decrease one’s motivation. These are the ways you can build your team’s motivation. 

 

Sources:  Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (1985). Intrinsic motivation and self-determination in human behavior. New York: Plenum.Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The “what” and “why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11, 227-268.

 


 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 

pre-season mental toughness


  1.  Set the Mental Tone. Everyone is optimistic, driven, and enthusiastic during pre-season. Determine how you and your teammates will approach the entire season with unshakeable belief. Adversity will hit so start preparing.

    How do you show up and start practice? 

  2. Be #Blessed. Every day someone is #blessed on social media that they received a scholarship. #Blessed has become a cliché’. Don’t brag about the work you are putting in during the pre-season mental toughness sessions. Save that for the real season. Remember, results are for other people, you need to be all about the process! 
  3. Sprints- The best way to get in shape is to stay in shape. Sprints prepare the body and the mind to embrace the discomfort. Mental Toughness is often about doing what you don’t want to do. How many “really” want to embrace the suck and do sprints? But, it will develop the mindset needed. 
  4. Avoid Grabbing Your Shorts- Push yourself through these workouts and training so you’ll be prepared when the season begins. Fatigue makes cowards of us all. You build up your pre-season mental toughness by putting your hands over your head and breathe instead. If you can’t, then take a knee and stretch. I realize much has been written about “it’s okay to grab your shorts.” I get it, so just be tougher mentally
  5. Just One More.  There is a secret to success—Just do one more. One more sprint, one more rep, read one more page, etc. Finish strong- just do one more.
  6. Talk With Coach. Re-connect with the coach and ask how you can best help the team! Most issues that I’ve seen between coach and athlete are due to a lack of proper communication. 

6 Ways to Build Pre-Season Mental Toughness 

 

 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 

Top 10 Strategies For Coaches To Be Mentally Tough


Some coaches may be good at these, while others may struggle at some. Seriously doubt that all excel at all of these skills. 

The goal is to be the BEST at getting BETTER! 

Here’s one skill that transfers all of the way and all of the time. That’s why it’s #1 on the list! 

1) Be calm- When you’re calm, cool, and collected, your team will respond that way. Be selective and calculated about when and where you increase the intensity to your team. 

2) Teach & Encourage- Free them up to make mistakes and play without fear. 

3) Talk to Your Own Team More Than Recruits- You can’t communicate too much with your own team. 

strategies for coaches to be mentally tough


There is a lot that goes into effective strategies for coaches to be mentally tough.


 


dr rob bell speakerDr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. 

Please Check out all the books and the mental toughness podcast - 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Strength and their Hinge Moment. New blog posts are published weekly. 

Here are 8 simple ways to have a positive attitude in the workplace. 

Having a positive attitude with ourselves and others will reap massive returns in life.

But, it takes more energy having a positive in the workplace because the negative far outweighs the positive. This infographic outlines 8 simple ways to have a positive attitude in the workplace.  Remember, simple, does not mean easy. We have to be intentional about our behavior.  

(INFOGRAPHIC) 8 Simple ways have a Positive attitude in the workplace.

 


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Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent books on Mental Toughness

Everything we want in life is on the other side of our comfort zone. Building mental toughness means being comfortable getting uncomfortable.


Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness- Don’t Should on Your Kids: Build Their Mental Toughness   

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Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent books on Mental Toughness-


Virgil Herring, TN PGA Instructor of the year provides the 3 c’s for becoming a champion.

Champions before Championships.

Competence- Confidence- Compete. We are not only working on our game, we are working on ourselves.

This is Just ONE way to Build Mental Toughness. If you are interested in learning more Mental Toughness Techniques. Check out RING THE BELL FOR Mental Toughness. 

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