We ALL struggle! But, we all don’t have to ride the struggle bus.
No one wants to be on the that bus, where we repeatedly keep messing up, quitting, not following through, or letting others down.
The struggle bus’s only destination is to the pity party, where no one shows up, but YOU!
Here’s Three Simple Ways to Get Off Of The Struggle Bus
1) I immensely respect David Goggins. He’s an ultra-freak endurance athlete and the epitome of mental toughness. No matter what, he just keeps moving forward. He’ll walk right past the struggle bus!
David Goggins was asked at a conference “how do you keep going through your extreme races?”
He answered “what-if.” He starts to ask “what-if I can pull this off?” “what-if I can keep going and overcome?”
I’ve always said “what-if” never happened. Too often we ask ourselves “what-if” and there isn’t an answer because we are focused on the past and NOT the future.
Most of the time when we ask “what-if”, we are trying to re-create our own past. And it’s fantasy.
Google “what-if never happened” and see what pops up. Hundreds of scenarios that simply didn’t happen and the possible outcomes from these hypothetical events. (i.e. what-if 9/11 didn’t happen? OR what-if we caught that touchdown?)
But Goggin’s strategy of “what-if” is focused on the future!!
James Altucher asks us to wake up asking the questions of “what-if.” He states- When you start with “What if?” you start with questions instead of answers.
2) Jesse Itzler, who actually had Goggins move in with him for a month (Read: Living With A Seal) has a similar strategy.
He tells himself “remember tomorrow!”
Remember tomorrow how you’ll feel if you give up and stop? Remember tomorrow if you don’t finish and push-through!
Both of these mantras are focused on the future and who we want to become!
3) One of my favorite lines from the Rocky Movies (and there are a ton) is from Rocky III. Apollo Creed is training Rocky in this movie and while Rocky is dealing with the typical battle against himself, Apollo drops some wicked knowledge on him.
There Is NO Tomorrow
So true, because if we approach everyday like it is our last, then we leave nothing to chance and seize this day and this moment for all it is worth…
Repeat any of these mantras to yourself when struggling and need to get off of that bus!
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness. Please check out the podcast 15 Minutes of Mental Toughness as we interview expert athletes and coaches about Mental Toughness and their Hinge Moment.