4 Ways To Increase Your Best Happiness Status
Regression to the mean is a simple concept.
If a variable exists that is outside of the mean, it is an outlier, and then the subsequent point or variable will be eventually be closer to the mean.
There is a baseline level in every area of our lives. If we shoot a really good score of golf, chances favor that the next round will be closer to our average (mean) or base game. If we are mentally tough and have an off day, or week, or month, then we will also return back to the mean.
Our best happiness status is the same, we all return the mean.
In my podcast episode with Barry Zito. Here was a MLB pitcher, who won a CY Young and signed a $126 million dollar contract, but was miserable. He lived in the Hollywood Hills mansion, had the massive 450 gallon fish-tank, $150,000 sound system, and the new Bentley. But, he was miserable, so I asked him to elaborate.
He said “It’s like when you get a new pair of shoes.” You are all excited and geeked out and can’t wait to run in them. (I got that reference!)
He said, “that feeling, wears off.”
It doesn’t matter how great the achievement, how big the bankroll, or size of the trophy.
We all return to our baseline. Our best happiness status is simply that, a snapshot, a level, a state.
For instance, after the event, we’ll return to the mean, whatever our level of happiness was before the thing or achievement or payday.
Since we return to our own mean, we’ll simply need to raise our overall baseline level of happiness. Once we can get to the state of “I AM” happy, or we will continue to chase it.
And we can’t “get to happiness” with things, stuff, accomplishments, or status.
- We can only increase our overall baseline through the quality of our relationships and the impact we make on other people’s lives. The stronger our relationships, the higher or overall baseline level of happiness.
Relationships either get deeper or they die.
- Gratitude is memory of the heart.
Yet, we take almost everything for granted. The water we drink, the bed we lay in, the ability to walk or even run. An attitude of gratitude is a myth.
Gratitude is a muscle and unless we take certain actions of gratitude, this muscle can atrophy. Gratitude exponentially increases our best happiness status. If our base level of happiness is one from scarcity (not enough), then it’s almost impossible to raise our level. We have to develop and nurture our abundance mentality.
3) Process over product
- Brett Favre won the Super Bowl Trophy in 1996. A very emotional player, it’s the ultimate in any footballer’s journey. So, here he reached the top of the mountain! And yet, he thought “Is that it?” He felt this, because he didn’t want for it to be over!
Those who prep and prepare and actually climb Mount Everest take many months to do so. And yet, they are only at the top of Mount Everest for a few minutes.
When we finished our basement. It was wonderful. But, as we enjoyed it and looked back, an interesting thing popped up. We actually enjoyed picking the colors, painting the walls, having our kids paint, choosing the carpet, and furnishing it and decorating it.
It was the process of it all that was so exciting! But, we often don’t appreciate the process until the product was over.
PUKE & RALLY is all about that the process is more important than the product!
- We are physically comfortable in life. Nothing wrong with comfort, but because we are physically comfortable, it does not mean we are mentally comfortable. The human spirit is more pleased with growth rather than comfort. And unless we have adversity in our lives, then we can’t grow.
If things are easy, and there is no challenge, then there can’t be much joy in “it.” The harder we work for something, the more we enjoy it!
The people who were given the real gift in life are those who have suffered and made it through. How are you creating these moments of suffering?
3. Process over Product
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens.
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