Confidence does NOT do this…
Have you ever driven in an unfamiliar place, following your GPS, and suddenly sensed that we were not quite in the right spot? So, we turned at the next corner or drove straight ahead disregarding the directions.
(I sometimes believe that the GPS takes me past businesses so I’ll have to stop.)
We all have a built-in GPS system. It’s called confidence!
It is the belief that our needs will be met, and the ability to trust in our decisions, and those closest to us. Trust is the most important mental skill, but we have to recognize what confidence does not do.,
Trust is your gut, your intuition. It’s another reason why confidence is just a feeling.
The GPS just points us in the direction we are supposed to go. It’s our decision whether or not to trust our gut. Even though, if we don’t trust it, we will often be incorrect.
But, what this mental skill does not do is this...
To date, I’ve never had the GPS ask me “How did you get here?” “Why are you in this part of town?” “Are you going to be late?”
Confidence does not judge!
It does not ask questions like
- “how did you get in this situation”?
- “This should be over”
- “why are you even here”?
- “Are you really good enough”?
Doubt tries to hi-jack our own mind into mindless questioning of ourselves.
Yes, we need to reflect and assess, but these are done before and after the trip, not during the actual drive to our immediate destination.
When we think too much, we get off at the wrong exit.
Confidence is the ability to re-focus, to let go of mistakes, and to listen to our gut, our inborn GPS. Confidence does not judge ourselves, however.
It allows us to move on!
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens.
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