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Confidence does NOT do this…


Have you ever driven in an unfamiliar place, following your GPS, and suddenly sensed that we were not quite in the right spot? So, we turned at the next corner or drove straight ahead disregarding the directions. 

(I sometimes believe that the GPS takes me past businesses so I’ll have to stop.) 

We all have a built-in GPS system. It’s called confidence!

It is the belief that our needs will be met, and the ability to trust in our decisions, and those closest to us. Trust is the most important mental skill, but we have to recognize what confidence does not do., 

Trust is your gut, your intuition. It’s another reason why confidence is just a feeling. 

The GPS just points us in the direction we are supposed to go. It’s our decision whether or not to trust our gut. Even though, if we don’t trust it, we will often be incorrect. 

But, what this mental skill does not do is this...


To date, I’ve never had the GPS ask me “How did you get here?”  “Why are you in this part of town?” “Are you going to be late?”


Confidence does not judge!

It does not ask questions like

  • “how did you get in this situation”?
  • “This should be over”
  • “why are you even here”?
  • “Are you really good enough”?

Doubt tries to hi-jack our own mind into mindless questioning of ourselves.

Yes, we need to reflect and assess, but these are done before and after the trip, not during the actual drive to our immediate destination.

When we think too much, we get off at the wrong exit. 

Confidence is the ability to re-focus, to let go of mistakes, and to listen to our gut, our inborn GPS. Confidence does not judge ourselves, however.

It allows us to move on! 

Confident people can do THIS skill. 


 


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In early 2000’s, Ken Ravizza was doing one of his impromptus, yet standing room only, presentations at the national conference of the Association of Applied Sport Psychology. He was working with the Anaheim Angels at the time and one of his messages was “don’t ask for gear.”

In essence, if the team and coaches enjoy your work, they will freely offer you team gear and swag. I LOVED IT! I have lived by this mantra, although I thoroughly enjoy fresh warm-ups, lids, and jackets. I have a passion for supporting and helping the various teams I work.

Here’s the deal, if you want to know your effectiveness, let the coach get your size and outfit you. I have come to associate that a coach that freely gives you “gear” means he/she wants you to be present and a part of the team. It is a small, yet important, token of appreciation and a rite of passage.

You’re receiving monetary compensation as well (you should be if you’re not), so it doesn’t necessarily mean a coach that doesn’t “outfit” you appreciate you, but it does go a long way.

What are small ways that you feel a part of the organization or team that you work with?