It is what is. It’s only uttered by people who experienced a setback or are just miserable. I’ve never heard it by someone holding up a trophy. Although, my goal is to have an athlete hold up a trophy and is so consumed by the process that they say, “hey, it is what it is.”
A focus on winning doesn’t lead to winning, a focus on the process does. However, our thoughts are often directed on the result and the outcome. When we do this, we welcome the ugly guest of FEAR into our game. Here’s 10 ways to forget about the outcome.
1) Talk to a teammate or competitor- Get outside of our own head, we are behind enemy lines. Andrew Luck actually congratulates guys who sack him!
2) TELL yourself what you’re going to do next!- don’t ask questions in competition, it only brings forth doubt.
3) Make the picture big- When I focus on going on vacation or that dinner date next week, I get happy. One of my players loved eating so much, he would talk about where we were going afterwards. Make the picture even bigger, we must know that it all works out, because it has so far.
4) Make the picture small again- Focus just on making one play, the next one!
5) Breathe- Breathe and look for the opportunity.
6) Rock, Paper, Scissors- If you’ve got a sport with some down time, play a quick game! It reduces the tension. check it out here…
7) Repeat your mantra- hopefully you have one… what refocuses you?
8) Think about your family- I get happy when I think about mine, but it also kicks in the drive.
9) Think about your behind– You know, your past successes. If all we had were good memories, how would you play?
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness- Don’t Should on Your Kid: Build Their Mental Toughness