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5 Ways To CRUSH Someone’s Confidence (Do This INSTEAD)


This infographic was designed specifically for parents, because I hate it when I accidentally crush my own kids confidence.  But below is good advice if you’re a coach as well. Unfortunately, if you are a Lex Luther type of person who just wants to crush someone’s confidence, then do some work on yourself. 

I totally remember my senior year of baseball when I made an error at short-stop. It was a hard hit ground ball that simply jumped and hit me in the chest and I didn’t make the play. I wasn’t that upset about it because it was a bad hop. But, when I got back to the dugout and coach called everyone together, he verbally challenged me if I could even play that position.

“Um, yes sir.” 

Now, I was never a great hitter, but I worked tons on fielding and felt I was a great short-stop. But that feedback from coach, in front of everyone, made me question everything and wonder if I really could play that position. yeah, call out someone in front of their peers, that’ll crush someone’s confidence.

That experience and feedback stayed with me and frankly, I played like crap the entire year at shortstop. 

I don’t blame coach, I just didn’t have the tools. I didn’t have mental toughness. I didn’t know how to let go of mistakes.

It sucked and I wish I could go back and give that high-school kid some advice. 

It is easier to crush someone’s confidence than it is to build it up. Confidence is contagious…

Perhaps this infographic can help. 


Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis.  Some clients have included: Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out all the books on Mental Toughness