How to Make A Hole-in-One, Run a Marathon, and Write a Book
I often say “simple, but not easy.”
The steps are simple, but it does take hard work, a few mental skills, and some luck.
It takes mental toughness skills and a focus that I feel everyone can achieve. But, it ultimately depends upon how bad do you want “IT.”
I am fortunate enough to have achieved these milestones and simply want to share the simple, but not easy strategies on how to make a hole-in-one, run a marathon, and write a book.
- Write out your bucket list for mental toughness.
In college, I heard about Ted Leonsis writing down 100 things he wanted to do before he died, and I simply did the same thing.
When I was teaching Sport Psychology at the university, I had my students write out their own bucket list, except they had to frame the list so they would see it every day.
- You have to get lucky…
That’s how to make a hole-in-one.
If I hit it close, it was a good shot, but it went in, so I was lucky (irony). My first hole-in-one came with a 9-iron in my hand. Hey, it counted.
I am happy that I actually achieved one of the goals that Ted Leonsis hasn’t had yet, a hole-in-one.
What is it that you want to achieve, experience, visit, or accomplish? It’s easy and fun to start, but can get tough later on: because do you really want to party with Jay-Z, or ride across the United State on a Harley?
Think big when writing out your list, but only write down what you really want to do.
- Use a mentor or guide for mental toughness.
One of my athletes stated the “he” got better because he saw what the great players did and would simply repeat their behaviors, practice habits, etc.
When writing my very first book, I used two mentors, Malcolm Gladwell, and John Grisham.
First, I followed Malcolm Gladwell’s books and his writing style. He starts off every chapter with a story and infused research thereafter to back-up the claims.
Perfect! I can do that!
I used John Grisham as a guide because he would write every day before going to the courtroom. When my daughter was born, I would take the early morning feedings, and she and I would then open up the coffee shop for an hour and half of writing, while she slept.
It works, I’ve written seven books on mental toughness so far…
- Make mental toughness a habit
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”-Aristotle
Starting graduate school, I needed discipline in my life, so I began running.
It actually helped calm me down and it’s part of my own how to make a hole-in-one.
Slow and short at first, and not many miles per week, or at much of a pace, but I was consistent. I then witnessed the finish of a Philly Marathon, followed point #1, and I made it a goal.
I already had a small base of running underneath me, so I just upped the mileage, talked with experts, read a book, and ran…. I ran 6 days a week for four months of training and ran a respectable 3:32 marathon.
The best part was when my second marathon came around, I knew how to train, what worked, what didn’t, repeated the behaviors, and ran faster, a 3:22 marathon…The racing continued and it progressed to Ironmans, ultra-marathons, and 100-milers. And oh so close to another how to make a hole-in-one.
It’s also a big reason why I merely signed-up and competed.
Whatever it is that we want to do, we must make it a habit, and simply do it every day, period. “Simple, not easy.”
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates coach executives and professional athletes and is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included three winners on the PGA Tour, Indy Eleven, University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens.
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