We are having our annual SuperBowl party and sure enough I get a few online responses of Maybe.ย So, maybe eight (8) more people are coming to the party OR maybe not!
Am I rejected for a better party, or what? Either scenario I play out sounds downright negative. Maybe sounds more like NO, but it isnโt. ย Maybe is cousins to Iโll think it overย and let me get back to you.ย
The answer is worst than NO.ย
No is like a tearing off a bandaid, it stings, but we get over to it.
At an 8th grade dance, I finally got up enough nerve to ask this girl to dance. It was one of those, โI have the biggest crush on this girlโ type of thing, so I devised the great plan to ask the girl at the dance! No pressure, no diamond.
I had heard up to that point in my life the clichรฉโ of โwhatโs the worst she could say?โ โNO.โ Now, NO would be painful and the fear of hearing that rejection is what caused all of the anxiety and stress. But I hadnโt even contemplated her response of ย โOh wow, Let me get back to you.โย
Maybe freezes us and places us in purgatory. I limped back to my side of the gym completely stuck. I wasnโt prepared for a maybe. At first I was actually excited, she didnโt reply โno,โ ย but, the excitement soon turned into detest.
Did she reallyย mean maybe, or did she actually mean no? My only recourse was to ask someone else, but how could I, because she said, MAYBE. ย She rejected me with a maybe and I learned early on that No isnโt the worst answer and I wouldnโt accept maybeโs or think it overโs any longer, until Evites over our Super Bowl party.
Donโt be the person who gives the answer of Maybe and certainly donโt accept the answer of Maybe.
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates isย based in Indianapolis. ย Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness-ย Donโt Should on Your Kid: Build Their Mental Toughness ย ย
