I’ve been to many different churches, Church of Latter Day Saints, Jewish Synagogues, A.M.E. Zion and Unitarian Universalists. I wanted to learn more about other’s beliefs, so I was fortunate to be able to explore. I was more into Whose your master rather than whose your pastor.
I’ve been to rock-star pastor services, those are creepy.
As a kid, I grew up in a Lutheran church. Many, many rituals.
So, whenever I attended services where people held up their hands in praise, I was out of my comfort zone. I internally applauded them though, I thought it was courageous.
I’m obsessed with helping athletes, coaches, and teams with mental toughness. Every book I read can be applied to getting better. I want my clients to be THE BEST AT GETTING BETTER. In LOVE DOES, author Bob Goff provided a huge mental toughness technique.
Bob used to walk around all day long with his fists clenched, defensive, and angry. When we are defensive all the time, we can’t win. He made one adjustment and everything changed. PALMS UP.
Sit right now with your hands on the back of legs and turn your hands over with your palms up! Do it for a minute. One of my tennis players told me this made a huge difference in resetting himself during change-overs. He won a big tournament, maybe it helped, I’m not sure.
It’s about controlled aggression, not aggressive aggression, that burns us up. CONTROLLED AGGRESSION… Being in control of our emotions, responses, and energy. If we are not in control of ourselves, something else is in control of us.
Whatever our office, there are times to flip the PALMS UP! In the courtroom, time outs in basketball, in the dug-out, in the car, at the poker table, wherever. Embarrassed by it, or think people will look? More mental toughness is needed then. Heck, put a towel over your lap or hold something small in your hands. PALMS UP.
It’s unbelievable how our mood, focus, and confidence change with our PALMS UP. And if you like that or it is too much, try this technique.
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology Coach. His company DRB & associates is based in Indianapolis. Some clients have included: University of Notre Dame, Marriott, and Walgreens. Check out the most recent book on Mental Toughness- Don’t Should on Your Kids: Build Their Mental Toughness