I have had a few head coaches disagree with this statement that “confidence is a just a feeling.” Folks on twitter have messaged me with their own arguments about confidence. Even some mental coaches disagree with this statement.
Yet, I’ll defend it…I’m stubborn.
Confidence is the most important part of mental toughness, because it affects all other skills.
We do things and attempt things we’ll be successful at. Belief & trust are also part of the same concept. So, why is it just a feeling?
Research has shown that there are four sources of confidence (check out this video here). Physiological states are one source. How we feel!!
1. Have you ever finished a workout or a run, looked at yourself in the mirror and thought, “Hey, I look good.” Honestly, you look absolutely no different from when you began, except you now feel different.
2. When athletes or musicians perform at their best, I ask them; what were you thinking about? Their answer, “ nothing.”
3. Elite performers all stress that when they are playing their best, the event actually slows down. They feel in complete control.
4. The first thing that goes when an athlete starts performing poorly is the lack of FEEL. Their play or technique may look fine, but if they don’t feel confident, they will search to get a feeling that works.
5. Our prayers are not automatically answered, but we feel better after doing so, or even meditating. We feel at peace.
Mental coaches, myself included, teach ways to become confident by changing our physiology, our body language, and how we feel. If confidence wasn’t a feeling, then why stress focused breathing, becoming centered, or getting B.I.G.?
What happens when we lose confidence however is that our feeling now turns into thoughts. We just begin to think too much. We no longer trust our instincts, our gut. Instead, we get stuck inside of our own head and try to think our way into right acting.
The real key is still finding a way to win when we are NOT confident! Need an assist? contact us…
Dr. Rob Bell is a Sport Psychology coach. DRB & Associates based in Indianapolis works with professional athletes & corporate athletes, coaches, and teams building their Mental Toughness. His 2nd book titled The Hinge: The Importance of Mental Toughness Follow on twitter @drrobbell or contact firstname.lastname@example.org